It Shouldn't Be a Crime to Make Love

Letter from Bryan, 12 years old, to NAMBLA.

This report is from the publication ‘Boys speak out!’ by the American man/boy love advocacy organization NAMBLA. The book can be ordered on the organization’s website.

Source: Boys speak out on man/boy love; NAMBLA; fourth (enlarged and expanded) edition; July 1996

It Shouldn’t Be a Crime to Make Love

The following letter was sent to NAMBLA by a 12 1/2-year-old, in response to our call for submissions to a revised pamphlet ‘Boys Speak Out on Man/Boy Love’.

I was asked to write what I feel about my relationship with my lover. I have two. One is a boy who is 13; the other, a man who is 23. I don’t think sex should be illegal for me and him. I love him and he loves me. I have known him since I was five. He used to baby-sit me.

It’s good to have him to love. He protects me and takes me out and treats me like I’m very special. He never hurts me or tells me to do anything. He lets me make it clear to him when I want to do something.

I had a bad man beat me up and rape me when I was seven, and he didn’t love me like my lover does. Our relationship works real good. We never argue, and he treats me like a lover and friend, not a child. He knows my needs and makes me feel very good in sex. He’s never fucked me since he’s way too big and he doesn’t want to hurt me.

It shouldn’t be a crime to make love. If I couldn’t have sex with him I’d probably kill myself. He would die for me, I know. I get very good grades in school and he helps me study on the phone or on visits to see him.

I feel kids are people with sexual needs, like adults. We’re just smaller but sex is still nice for us. I have a great mom. She loves my lover and approves of him and me because she wants me happy and not sad. The only bad thing is he’s in jail for his love of another boy and some shit. I don’t want him in trouble any more.


NAMBLA Bulletin, vol. 12, no. 4 (May 1991), p. 13.