Such a Relationship is Very Beneficial

Dan, a 19-year-old male, shares his view of man/boy relationships in a NAMBLA publication.

This report is from the publication ‘Boys speak out!’ by the American man/boy love advocacy organization NAMBLA. The book can be ordered on the organization’s website.

Source: Boys speak out on man/boy love; NAMBLA; fourth (enlarged and expanded) edition; July 1996

Such a Relationship is Very Beneficial

I first met my friend when I was 10 years old. He was a friend of my family and enjoyed their company differently than mine, but also the same way. He enjoyed all of our company as friends, but also with me as a sexual partner.

He casually persuaded me into having sex with him. He didn’t force me into it, and was very caring with my feelings and capabilities.

He would answer my questions about sex, both homosexual and heterosexual, and always gave me very truthful and complete answers to them. Not only was he a sexual partner, but a great friend, and acted like a father to me. He took me on several trips (skiing, caving, seing the country), and I don’t think it was because of the sexual attraction, but that he really cared for me.

I enjoyed having sex with him, partly to please him for all he did for me, but also because I enjoyed it. This contact with him opened my eyes to more than just sex with women, and gave me a more in-depth outlook on sex than most people have.

I think such a relationship with this kind of person, for both guys and girls, is very beneficial.

I am now 19 and am heterosexual, but if the chance arose, I wouldn’t be afraid to have a sexual encounter with a guy. I still enjoy his company when I see him, with occasional encounters, but enjoy being with him just because I like his company.

I agree that it would be hard to distinguish between molesting and genuine caring, but it should not immediately be classified as rape. People like these are very different from a brutal type person, and should be able to care for someone they do.